Honesty without kindness, humor, and good-heartedness can be just mean. From the very beginning, to the very end, pointing to our own hearts to discover what is true isn’t just a matter of honesty, but also of compassion and respect for what we see
Nursing is nursing, whether you’re a med/surg nurse, a critical care nurse, ER, telemetry, pediatric, psychiatric, L & D, clinic, ambulatory, homecare or any other of the many disciplines. We’ve all gone through the same pre requisites and the same core subjects in nursing school, the same despair that is the nursing school experience, and we’ve all passed the same stressful licensing examination (NCLEX). It doesn’t matter if you graduated from a community college or elitist school, or whether it’s an Associates, Bachelor or Masters degree - what matters is that you don’t look down or disrespect your coworkers who have struggled the same as you, achieved the same as you, and maybe even fought battles you probably didn’t know existed. Respect nursing by respecting one another.
Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave her the instructions for the battle. The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. They both had their weapons. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, “May I have permission to go into battle with you?” Fear said, “Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission.” Then the young warrior said, “How can I defeat you?” Fear replied, “My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.” In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear
Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
Only the following items should be considered to be grave faults: not respecting another’s rights; allowing oneself to be paralyzed by fear; feeling guilty; believing that one does not deserve the good or ill that happens in one’s life; being a coward. We will love our enemies, but not make alliances with them. They were placed in our path in order to test our sword, and we should, out of respect for them, struggle against them. We will choose our enemies.
How well do you honor your friendships? Sometimes we assume that our friendships can withstand anything, or perhaps we take one another for granted; whether we’ve known each other for six months or ten years. No friendship is infallible, and could fall apart in a heartbeat when one or the other gets complacent, or if there is only one person constantly initiating contact. It has been said that true friends can go for long stretches without speaking to one another, however it is also accurate to add that true friends value one another, and with that absence comes an understanding; not an assumption. How long you’ve known each other doesn’t count as much as how deeply you respect and understand one another
Not everyone wants to talk about what’s bothering them. So when a person says, “I don’t wan’t to talk about it,” believe them. It’s not an invitation to probe them until they cave in and tell you. Respect privacy. Some things just need to be figured out without people around.
You’re going to be there when a lot of people are born, and when a lot of people die. In most every culture, such moments are regarded as sacred and private, made special by a divine presence. No one on Earth would be welcomed, but you’re personally invited. What an honor that is
(This gives me pause)